More than fun !

I am looking forward to next sunday as Reflex goalkeepers school, where I volunteer as mental coach have their season’s celebration !

Their last practise of the season is finished in style :  the kids receive their certificate, often in presence of a well known soccer player and everyone is treated to a delicious bbq !

My reward for the kids is as usual play ! Spring time is “Phuro bubbles” time and excellent time to get the kids out of their heads and back in play mode !

Why are these large inflatable balls helpful and useful in coaching…?

The fun factor !

There is nothing more motivating than to have fun in sports ! It really isn’t all about seriousness and performances all the time…Keep it balanced and avoid too much  pressure.

Besides the hard work you already put in your practises, you have to be able to blow off steam regularly…

Bubble soccer seems scary at first but once you find out you really can’t hurt yourself, you can loosen up and have fun ! Then the giggling and screaming usually starts…

Isn’t it wonderful to see happy faces ?


A physical challenge !

Playing bubble soccer is a physical challenge ! Luckily the players are in good shape ! The parents are often curious and excited to try it out aswell, but many of them admit, they wake up the next morning having muscle pain all over their bodies !

Ten minutes to the max and everyone is out of air and thursty as hell ! It is very important to hydrate regularly when you’re playing !


Upside down !

Mental coaching is learning kids how to focus again. It often means putting things “upside down”, putting things back in perspective, creating a different outlook on things !


A mental challenge

Besides physical strength the right mental attitude is necessary to be more resilient to vicious tackles !


As you know famous soccer players like to use visualisations before playing an important game. In bubble soccer the inflatable bubble is your protective suit.

If during a soccer game you have the tendency to shy away from the ball, you can create a imaginative protective shield around you just the size of the bubble ball.

Keep your self-talk positive : It’s your ball, you are going to take it !

Positive thoughts and emotions

To feel strong and to be strong you have to keep your thoughts positive ! You can use AK (Applied kinesiology) to see what effect your thoughts have on your body feeling and strength.

Negative thoughts and emotions will weaken your body, the positive ones will strengthen them. Keep that in mind when you tackle someone…The angry one isn’t always the strongest ! Who’s going to be the last man standing….?


Our energy field

The bubble ball can be likened to your own natural energy field. Every living being (even our planet) has this energy field around its body. These fields can influence each other and are able to communicate with each other ! This isn’t about communication through language but through vibrations. Read more : We are electromagnetic beings


Still believe learning new things can’t be fun ?

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Into the light

“May the flowers remind us why the rain was so necessary.”

Xan Oku

Awakening isn’t about surfing on pink clouds. Awakening is a process of destruction, it is beyond blue. It is a storm that makes you go adrift for a while, not just a breeze passing by…

It is a peeling away of many layers…Ugliness unfolded, many lies exposed…

It is stepping out of an illusion and stepping back to source.

It is stepping through debris of the old and stepping forward, forwarding another vision…

It is stepping up to a higher place and stepping into a new dimension, into a new world !

Awakening is a process of transformation, of remembering who we really are.

What were once tears of sadness become tears of joy, hope and renewal as we are washing away the old…

What were once drops of hate, resentment and guilt become a beautiful shower of love and compassion for all.



The rain showers the flowers, the sun lights us all up from above and the wind blows a new animo…

Look deep in nature and find the answers you seek, look deep within your own nature and see that everything is connected.

“It is the light that urges the flower to open up its heart to the world.”

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I am that I am

Some say God doesn’t exist ! Their argument is that the world is a miserable place, a lot of people are suffering or in pain, there is still misery, poverty and war.

“If there were a God, he wouldn’t let all of this happen !”

Some doubt…They feel there is something more to life, but they can’t fully grasp it, they get easily distracted by what is happening around them. They lack faith, they are not confident enough. They only pray in time of need. As a cry for help.

“If there’s a God then please let him be merciful…”

We seem to have lost the way, we seem to have forgotten that we are our own judge and jury. Things got “out of hand” when we started judging ourselves and others, we started to see life as a competition, as a play with numbers…

To count or not to count

We give each other scores and grades, points and numbers ! We compare and compete and are gradually deducting ourselves, giving away points or losing them along the way.

“That’s a three overthere, pretending he’s reading a book and look you would barely notice it but there is a one, hidden behind a tree. A ten is proudly walking around, several numbers following his ass. And there you got a bunch of sevens, all clinging together,..”

What is your rating ? How do you rate yourself ? If you often feel invisible or excluded and you feel lonely, I’ll bet you are pulling the shortest straw ! And you tell yourself that…

You don’t count !

We were told that we were a good for nothing type ; we were told that we didn’t really matter or that we weren’t talented enough !

We feel victimized : “He has done that to me, “It’s not fair !” We seek revenge.

Each time we believe we can be invalidated or devaluated, each time we believe we are something less then who we truly are, we are giving our power away…

There’s no need to count numbers in divine mind


We are already completely loved and accepted by our creator. The gift of his love is our free will. We are able to chose who we want to be.

The meaning of the Hebrew name YHWH, God’s name is “the Self-existent,” “He who becometh,” or “the becoming one.”

 “The day we really believe it and are bold enough to walk in that Name, there will be peace in the world. If we turn on the outside to an external God, there will be war in the world. For you have denied me and when you deny the real God there is confusion and conflict in the world.”

Neville Goddard

We are disgracing our Name, each time something negative follows “I AM” . Negative statements deduct and contract. Everything positive that follows “I AM” is multiplied, expansive and constructive !

Who do you say I am ?


“I will be what I will be”

“I will become whatsoever I may become.”

No external force necessary.

The kingdom is within !


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A little horsepower

“In the beginning was the word and the word was love and love was imagination. When love takes us through the sun-dappled garden of our imagination, no stalking horses can perturb the rainbow in our mind or fade out its bright colors reflecting in the blue sky of our memory.”

Erik Pevernagie


“My dreams are tied to a horse that will never tire.”


“A horse already knows who he is, do you know who you are ?”


“Ride the horse in the direction it is going.”


“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”


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Summoning a dragon

This is the story about a boy and his pets, a tiger and a snake. Pets the boy already had since birth, but that he was obliged to separate !

They couldn’t get along, they couldn’t stand each other ! Even being in the same room was painful, so he had them moved, the one far away from the other.

One lived in the eastern side of the castle, the other in the west. The boy had to walk miles each day to feed them and to have a small talk at best !

Snake and tiger often talked bad about each other ! They always gossiped or were trying to belittle one another.

One day the boy had enough of it, he became sick of all their quarrels and fights ! He couldn’t stand their hate anymore, he just wanted to play and laugh !

That day he decided to visit neither tiger nor snake ! A message was send to both, telling the boy’s health was at stake !


The tiger started nervously walking back and forth on his isle.

“Snakes are sneaky snails !” the tiger said resentfully ! “Snake must have seduced the boy to keep him away from me !”

“She is probably up to no good”, the tiger thought, stroking his beard. “Maybe she’ll try to suffocate the boy !” He became furious and feared…

“The boy is in danger ! It is time for a fight ! I’ll be knocking at the snake’s door and I’ll kill her tonight !


The snake was rising in suspicion and thought about a plan to murder the tiger too.

“That tiger must think he is smart, believing he can keep me and the boy forever apart ! I’ll teach him a ssserious lesson sssoon, tonight I sssneak out and kill him at full moon”.

Both animals went on a mission to claim back their rightful position !

That night was a thriller, they both met each other somewhere in the middle… There they were… ready for a fight, angry looks on their face, each showing their might !


They were about to grab one another’s head, when they heard a cough coming out of a bed. They stopped their fight and looked dazzled. Next to their battle seemed to be the room where the boy was settled.

They decided to pause a while the fight, just to have a quick look at the boy and then end this matter once and for all tonight !

The boy opened his eyes and was amazed to see them both standing at his bed, they were holding his hands and praying God to restore his health.

The boy felt instantly better and gave a hug to both !

“Seeing you together as friends makes my heart full of joy ! You made my dream come true. This is a miracle !”, shouted the boy !”

Tiger and snake were now full of remorse, impressed by the boy’s precious love and incredible force.

The night the boy’s animals reconciled, a king was born with a dragon by his side !



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How to win friends

The How to Win Friends IQ Matrix summarizes the classic book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” written by Dale Carnegie. It helps to unlock ideas that will allow you to influence other people’s decisions, actions and behavior.

The article provides suggestions on how to influence people; pinpoints ways to make people like you, outlines techniques to win people over to your way of thinking, and much more. Read the full article : How to win friends and influence people


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Cut it out bullies…

I don’t have to tell anyone the difference between a bully and a victim or an agressor and a defender. But what do bullies and their victims have in common?

They are both “unbalanced” and swing between anger and fear !


Some kids grow up in harsh environments, without any signs of affection or words of support and appreciation. Some have to confront a bully at home, some are victim of verbal or physical abuse.

These children often become fearful, resentful or agressive. Some become bullies themselves as a way to cope with their life and deal with the pain. “Someone has to pay !”

Some are in search of someone they can control, who are an easy target for their verbal assaults or physical attacks, children who show signs of weakness, looking “weird” or react fearful.

The victim’s life will get worse if the bully isn’t stopped. The victim’s fear becomes frustration, the frustration becomes anger and is eventually spitted out on parents, sisters, brothers,…It causes a serious vicious cycle, everything is loaded !

Mental strength and emotional resilience


Each time the bully shoots his arrows on you and you feel bad, he has found ground where his anger can settle and sprout ! Then you make it even worse with repetitive negative thoughts about yourself.

Knitted together they make a giant ball of frustration, difficult to untangle ! Ever had a chewing gum in your hair ? That kind of nasty thing ! You’ll have to come up with an ingenious solution if you do not want it to turn into a complete mess !

Self analysis * change * transformation

Freeze it on spot !

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You are not freaking out this time ! Be an iceman : let them fire their fiery flames ! You will build a huge icewall to protect yourself. The flames will have vanished before they can hit you ! That cold icy layer and that cold freezing air around you makes you untouchable for these attacks. “Is that all they got ?” Brush yourself off !!

Tip : There’s a breathing and relaxing method called the Freeze frame technique developed by Heart Math institute that can help you stay calm in case of emergency.

Energy level


What is your current energy level ? How is your health ? Are you eating the right food ? Do you have any physical pain, where does it hurt ?  What is your overall body feeling

When emotions accumulate they cause stress and dis-ease in your body, they will make your body go weak.

Tips : Eat plenty of natural and fresh food. Don’t self-medicate !

Thoughts & beliefs

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Write down your repetitive thoughts about the situation, about yourself, about the bully. What kind of thoughts are you constantly chewing on ? Your thoughts will eighter be occupied by something in the past or something in the future !

Where’s your self-talk heading ? How do you describe yourself ? What are words or sentences you frequently use ?

Tips : Make your self-talk positive. Learn to visualize a good outcome. Focus on the positive. Be courageous ! Have a role play with friends or family to practise some good one-liners !

Emotions & feelings


Your habitual thoughts will cause you to imagine different kind of scenarios. A doom scenario in your head will usually result in a bad feeling. How often do you repeat previous attacks in your mind, each time experiencing the emotions again ? You can already feel fearful because of what tomorrow brings. Before you know you are in a vicious cycle with continious vicious results.

Tips : Focus your attention on things that feel good, let go of bad feelings instead of storing them in your body. Learn how to relax and do breathing exercices. Focus on heart feelings ! Anger issues : find some tips here : Throwing a tantrum ?


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Is there something out of your control ? Something or someone in your surroundings that actually worsens the whole thing ?

Do you have supportive family or friends ? When yes, spit all your worries out !

Tips : Too sad, too lonely, too depressed ? Seek help ! Suicidal, someone threatens you ? Seek help !

Social behavior


What is your attitude and style around other people ? How’s your walk and talk ? Are you walking with your shoulders up or down ? Are you facing the ground or looking around ? Do you want to control people all the time or are you the one being controlled ? Are you shy or bossy ?  What kind of behavior of others triggers you ?

Tips : Practise your attitude in front of a mirror, look confident, stand straight ! Make eye contact when you talk to someone ! Tell your affirmations out loud in front of the mirror every day !

“When did a dragon ever die of the poison of a snake ?”


All these things are related, and you will find out that when you bring a positive change in one section another will soon follow. Use the tips and you will surely get positive results !

Your own thoughts and emotions can be your biggest monsters and the most challenging  but you are always in control of them and you are able to change them ! When you face the fears inside the bully often disappears outside !

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